When we have a strong opinion on a topic, we often will offer our perspectives in a deluge on information instead of one point at a time. This doesn’t allow for a conversation, instead it feels like a speech. One point at a time allows the opportunity for the person we are talking to the time to respond.
When someone does not recognize the validity of our argument, it does not always mean that we have failed, but it can be disappointing. It can feel like we are not being heard. It can feel like our opponent is too close-minded to hear what we are saying. Many people (including us) tend to hold onto our original views and are reluctant to concede points to other people. We should not be surprised or disappointed when someone walks away without having agreed with us. If that is your goal, you will never achieve it. But, if you present an idea skillfully and the other person is receptive to the idea, then it is possible that the idea can settle in to their world view and be incorporated at a later date. We also go back and look at some of the topics that we have discussed in the past such as media bias. At the end we agree to a more proactive approach to our conversations we can be better prepared to respond to each other’s points.
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This is a very common strategy and one that we often do not notice happening. The response to our point is often related but not relevant and so we respond to their response and allow the conversation to veer away from the point that we made.
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To often, we attack, find fault, challenge and undermine the person we talk to. If we occasionally create a bridge to them, they are more likely to hear what we are saying.
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We take a look at how our presentation can impact how we are received. Because our goal is for the person we are talking to to be reception and listen, this can be a useful tool to add to our arsenal.
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